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I am so sick of parents screwing up their kids. They wanna blame the media, MTV, or sadists for their children growing up mental but the biggest culprit is parents themselves. I've been meeting a lot of chiks online lately and the majority of them are totally screwed up. Now I may not be a license therapist but I've spent enough time on a shrink's couch to make a diagnosis:

It's the freakin' parents!

I can't believe how many girls I've come across that are 25 and totally sheltered. They're on the verge of graduating from college and haven't lived a day in their life. I can see it a mile away--it's totally the parents fault. Those over-protectant, demanding sorts--the kind that actually think they're helping their kids.

Listen asshole, the only thing you're doing by "protecting" you kid from harm's way is creating child who will never learn how to live life in any form.

I'm sorry, but this topic makes me incredibly angry. I just can't believe how fucking stupid some people are (that's the damn parents).

Kids need to learn from their mistakes. I realize there's a lot of evil out there and you wanna protect them from it, but kids need to learn to think for themselves. Maybe that's the problem--maybe it is the media's fault. Public Service Announcements remind parents to never let their child be alone. To consistently monitor their online activity. To watch and moderate all aspects of their lives. But these PSAs got it wrong. Parents shouldn't be controlling their kid's lives with an authoritarian eye--they need to be teaching their kids how to make good decisions.

My little brother used the internet since he was 10 years old. My mother didn't monitor every chat room he was in. Why? Because she taught him not to be damn stupid--to recognize when someone is trying to play him. When I was a kid, my mom let me walk home from school. Why? 'Cause I knew not to get in cars with strangers. It's real fucking easy.

I'm sorry--I'm sorry. I'm just really irate. These parents are just such blooming idiots. Covering your child's eyes to all the evil in the world and letting them grow up in a controlled environment leaves turns kids as dysfunctional adults. I was just talking to a 25-year old girl online who had to close the window because her parents didn't want her talking to people online.

She's 25. Old enough to buy beer, get married, make porn, and have power of attorney--but her parents still won't let her talk to strangers online. What are they worried about--that I might lure her out to my van with some candy?

And what a girl she is. Pretty, thin, attractive--and without the slightest bit of confidence. She didn't even posses the ability to converse with me--an adult. She couldn't grasp the idea of sarcasm. She didn't understand the concept of jokes. I had to reassure her and explain things so much that I felt like I was talking to an eight year old (hmm...people have been known to lie about their age on the internet: maybe I was talking to an eight year old).

That's just one gal. I've come across many others who aren't allowed to drive. I've even met a few who aren't allowed to work. What kind of 20 year old girl isn't allowed to work? I know Paris Hilton never had a job but she's inheriting her daddy's fortune. How is someone fresh out of college who has never had a job before suppose to find work? Job interviewing is a skill. And even if she gets the job, what sort of adjustment is she gonna have once she actually becomes part of the workforce?

As a guy who has seen a lot of life, I can guarantee this plan always backfires. The girls in high school who weren't allowed to have boyfriend become the biggest ho's when they move away to college. And those are the lucky ones--at least they got away from parental rule early enough to live. But those who always have their parents looking over their shoulder never become functional adults.

As I'm getting old I can see those kids as adults. They're the same girls in high school who weren't allowed to have boys call. The same one whose parents picked them up after school even though they lived only a block away. The kids who were never allowed to buy lunch because their folks wanted to make sure they ate healthy. Those kids never made any decisions for themselves and now I see them in their 20s. They're hopeless and starved for attention because they never had friends growing up. Their full of closet desires and dreams but don't know how to let them out. They're completely dependant on their parents.

As I get older, so do they. I'll be real curious to see how these girls turn out in the 30s. They're probably the types who get married and have their husbands provide for them. They get jobs but not careers. The type of woman who becomes completely lost and hapless when their husbands leave them. It's sad really. As I become more aware I can see the pattern; I can see the life cycle. An unfulfilled life, void of sense of self worth--all because of their parents.

Fresh Prince had it wrong: Parents just aren't SMART!

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